I’ve been in lots of situations where the response from the people I moan to, or open up to to, has been along the lines of:
“Well think what they must have been through to end up like that.”
“Don’t get angry, have compassion because they clearly need it as they’re in a lot of emotional pain.”
Read MoreNow, if you’ve been around here before, you’ll know that I have beef with a lot of things. Today’s beef? The cult of now.
Read MoreThis is a tale about making bread. But it’s not really about making bread.
It’s about keeping going when you don’t feel like you’re making a difference
Read MoreThis post is half permission slip and half a bunch of practical ways you can cope when life goes wonky, you have unexpected bad stuff to deal with but somehow you’ve still got to keep going.
Read More**Hello Couragemakers! I am so happy to be back after a pretty long break – a lot longer than I expected. A lot of things have happened during my time away which I won’t bog you down with, but let’s just say that it’s been a pretty ugly couple of months, which involved losing someone […]
Read MoreYou do not owe anything to anyone, regardless of how they make you feel otherwise. You do not owe anyone an explanation for who you are or how you live your life. That decision is up to you alone.
You will change. You will go through experiences that alter and develop the fundamentals of who you are. That’s life - that is how you grow and develop as the person only you can be.
Read MoreIt’s fair to say that as kind-hearted creatives, we spend a lot of the time feeling like we’re swimming against the tide. We contemplate things which others think are plain odd (my Dad is SO sick of being asked if he’d rather be a bench or a tree) and generally spend a lot of time […]
Read MoreI talked a while ago on here about being guilty of future tripping. Getting so lost in what we want to do in the future, and not focusing on the present. I also mentioned that I had big changes which I would share when I was ready. And I’m ready. Turning my life upside down In […]
Read MoreThere’s this myth out there that self care is eeeaasy. It’s like this ridiculously simple thing that needs no attention. Simple as running a bath right? It’s not easy If this whole self care thing was easy, we wouldn’t end up burnt out, exhausted and coming down with colds after stressful weeks. If self care was easy, […]
Read MoreA lot of us set ourselves high expectations. Sometimes they’re not realistic, and we spend time beating ourselves up, full of self sabotage. That’s why I want to share my story of ‘failure’ with you today. A month ago, I wrote here on my blog about this year being the year to complete NaNoWriMo (50,000 […]
Read More“It would be easier, and quicker if I just did it.” “It will cause an argument if I said no, and I hate conflict” Sound familiar? I thought so. So let’s take a couple of scenarios: 1. You’re at work and your colleague is taking a loooong time to do a basic task. Sometimes you […]
Read MoreIf you’ve ever heard yourself saying, or thinking… ‘But I’d feel bad if I didn’t’ ‘I feel so guilty if I take time for myself’ ‘Looking after myself is so selfish when there are other people less fortunate than me!’ Then, this one’s definitely for you! The problem with guilt is that it’s such a […]
Read MoreLast night I did something that I’ve been meaning to do since this time last year. It’s not profound, it’s not impressive, it’s something that’s really simple. And that was get in bed at 7pm with a good book and spend the whole evening in bed reading. That might not be your cup of tea, […]
Read MoreLet’s make this short and sweet. Most of us want to live. Most of us want to achieve our dreams. We all have a limited amount of energy and time. If we hit the ground running and never stop to think of ourselves, we will fall to the ground. Therefore looking after yourself is not […]
Read MoreWe all have bad days. For some of us they’re one offs. For others, they show up pretty regularly. It’s not about banishing the bad days, because like good old Dolly tells us, ‘if you want the rainbow, you gotta put up with the rain’. But it’s about being able to deal with crappy days […]
Read MoreKayaking doesn’t seem like the hardest thing in the world. A bit of balance, a bit of arm muscle and some good size waves. It doesn’t seem like a tasking activity. That’s until you met me. Let me paint you an accurate picture. It’s sunny, I’ve hit the beach with my family and I’m in […]
Read MoreWe’re our own worst enemies. We push ourselves harder and harder. We expect to get three times the work done in a third of the time. Then we berate ourselves when our immune systems start failing us and when we’re not achieving what we wanted to. Why? Because we think we’re super-human? Probably. The more […]
Read MorePicture the scene. It’s been a hard few weeks. You just want to relax. Everyone has seemed to want something from you, the bags under your eyes look bigger than your credit card bills, you yawn more than you talk and you can’t remember then last time your brain just shut up. So you’ve taken […]
Read MoreI’ve written before on my blog about how inspired I get by big adventures and taking risks. You know what it’s like. You’re watching your favourite team on a Saturday night (or like me, watching Nashville) and you’re rooting for them to score (or get back together). You’re watching your friend take make a big […]
Read MoreI’ve recently got really into the TV programme Catfish. I don’t know whether it’s just a human interest thing, or because me and my partner met online ten years ago, but I’m a bit addicted. There’s just something about watching people at their most vulnerable, put themselves out there and pick themselves back up and start […]
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