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Reclaim Yourself: A Couragemaker’s Guide To A Wholehearted 2018!

As long as I can remember, this whole New Year, New You shit has reduced me to rants. While the temptation to start anew is alluring, it’s just simply not possible. To paraphrase a piece on this subject I wrote a while ago, I don’t believe in reinventing yourself. To reinvent yourself is to dislocate […]

Challenging The Cult Of Now: Your Stories Don’t Have An Expiration Date

Now, if you’ve been around here before, you’ll know that I have beef with a lot of things. Today’s beef? The cult of now.   Have you ever noticed when endlessly scrolling through Facebook, Instagram or Twitter (we all do it, no shame please!) that in general, it feels like everyone has something exciting going […]

Creatives: Just Keep Baking Bread

This is a tale about making bread. But it’s not really about making bread. It’s about keeping going when you don’t feel like you’re making a difference, when you think that no one in the world cares about your work, when you’re not sure where you’re heading and you don’t think your work is good […]

During Shit Times, Just Do The Necessary

We’ve all been there. You’re in the middle of a creative project, you’ve got a huge important deadline, or you’re running a business and something happens.   Maybe it’s a period of health issues, a family crisis, a break-up, or something else. But it knocks the sails out of you and you need time, space […]

5 Gentle Reminders for When Life Goes Wonky

**Hello Couragemakers! I am so happy to be back after a pretty long break – a lot longer than I expected. A lot of things have happened during my time away which I won’t bog you down with, but let’s just say that it’s been a pretty ugly couple of months, which involved losing someone […]

Fuck Dreamshitters: A Manifesto for Couragemakers

You do not owe anything to anyone, regardless of how they make you feel otherwise. You do not owe anyone an explanation for who you are or how you live your life. That decision is up to you alone.   You will change. You will go through experiences that alter and develop the fundamentals of […]

Why It’s Important  To Take a Creative Break From The Work You Love

The blog is back! After a creative break this summer, I’m so excited to go back to blogging at least once a week, and I have SO many posts planned to help you shine brighter, put yourself out in the world as you are and thrive wholeheartedly in a world that sometimes feels like it’s […]

An Open Letter To All Creatives On Self-Doubt

Okay, Couragemakers who struggle with self-doubt, listen up. Sometimes on this creative and dream chasing journey, we all need reminders which are a bit more of a kick up the ass. Today is one of those days. So here’s the thing:   If you are looking for evidence that you’re shit, you’re going to find […]

8 Untranslatable Words Every Creative Needs To Know

It’s fair to say that as kind-hearted creatives, we spend a lot of the time feeling like we’re swimming against the tide. We contemplate things which others think are plain odd (my Dad is SO sick of being asked if he’d rather be a bench or a tree) and generally spend a lot of time […]

Unhidden Creativity & The Personal Cost Of Sharing Your Creativity Online

If you put yourself out there on a regular occasion, by showing your life and your work online or IRL, this is for you. And if you dream of one day doing that, this is definitely for you. When I started That Hummingbird Life – nearly 3 years ago now – shit really started to […]

What If? Flipping Fear On Its Head & Telling Self-Doubt to Fuck Off

When I was 22, I watched something that made me feel understood in a way that I had never felt understood before that moment. It was a two-part documentary on young people who were living and struggling with OCD –  just like me. The series focused on an OCD bootcamp, with participants coming out of […]

3 Questions To Ask Yourself Before You Start Any Creative Project

  I don’t know about you, but there seems to be so much similarity in so much of the stuff we see online. Blog posts look the same, Instagram feeds look the same, e-courses look identical but with perhaps a shift in colour scheme. And it can get so fucking boring. And I think it […]

The Ultimate Self Care Q&A!

Welcome to this super post all about self care! If you’ve ever thought about self care, struggled with self care, or don’t know what the hell self care is, this post is for you. If you’ve ever felt stressed, found it hard to justify doing things just for you, or been burnt out, this post […]

56 Things To Do Instead Of Watching/Reading The News

Wow. Some days the world feels really fucked up – those days seem to be happening more than not right now. And it can be really hard, especially as idealists and people working to put good shit in the world, to maintain any kind of hope, any kind of optimism and belief that there are […]

EPIC POST: A Creative’s Guide on What to Do When You Feel Like Giving Up

Feeling like giving up for me, is on the same level of scariness as losing your enthusiasm (read that epic post here). When I feel like giving up, I go really deep into a spiral of shame, frustration, depression, and to be honest, I usually sink into an all out existential crisis. And this is […]

When Dream Chasing Goes Wonky

I wrote a lot about dream chasing before me and Mr. Meg left for our three-month trip around the US. About the big pause, about the not so glamorous side of dream chasing and about the need to write your own adventure story. Now it’s time to talk about when dreams becomes reality and when […]

Dear the Online Business/Blogging World. It’s time we addressed the bullshit.

If you are a creative, a blogger, a business owner or a one person band and you’re feeling overwhelmed, you’re going to want to read this!  I am pissed off. Blogging and generally being online started as a way of expressing ourselves. Limited customisation options, and it was all about the writing and actually connecting […]

5 Reasons Why You Can’t Create (and what you can do about it)

Feeling uninspired is the dreaded fear of all creatives. It’s like the He-Shall-Not-Be-Named of creativity but we all get it. And when we get it, we panic that it’s never going to come back. And sometimes that ends up being a self fulfilling prophecy. Maya Angelou said, “You can’t use up creativity. The more you […]

7 Films to Warm Your Heart

Now, like most people, I enjoy a good Netflix binge. But sometimes, it’s so easy to start a series, put life on pause (even when you have too much to do and so little time) and just get stuck in. But other times we just need a bit of a lift and some inspiration, and […]

The Loneliness That Comes with Not Fitting In

I’ve spent my whole life feeling like I don’t fit in. When I was thirteen I started a zine called Broccoli (okay, I only got round to designing the front cover). It was going to be all about the experiences of growing up a misfit and not feeling like I fit in. In high school I […]

This is the scariest thing about dream-chasing

While I’ve been in the US, I’ve really learned how huge Halloween is over here. The decorations vary from pretty to over the top, the candy looks delicious and there’s definitely something in the air. I’ve definitely seen my fair share of scary skeletons, but I think there’s definitely something a lot scarier that none […]

Dreamshitters, Standing Up For Yourself & Losing People Along The Way

There’s something people don’t tell you when you start to stand up for yourselves and following the beat of your drum. And that’s this: often you’ll lose someone along the way. Somewhere between finding your voice and dealing with dreamshitters, something changes. You stand taller. You talk with conviction. You start to lose your people […]

Magical Qualities of Laughter You Didn’t Know About

Lately, I’ve been thinking a lot about how much time we spend feeling connected, happy and generally smiling. And that got me thinking about laughter. When was the last time you laughed until your belly ached. Or had a smile as wide as the moon or felt like you were glowing inside? A year and […]

Self Care Doesn’t Have To Be Glamorous

This week I want to debunk some myths and share with you something I’ve been struggling with lately. And that’s this notion that self care has to be beautiful. It has to be these set of serene moments that are simultaneously Natural Geographic worthy, as well as worthy for high esteemed food blogs. And these serene […]

5 really helpful tips for chronic worriers

I would say worrying is definitely one of my top 5 skills. I can worry until the cow’s come home. I can worry about ANYTHING. And I have a pretty creative imagination when it comes to turning a non-situation into something epic-ly awful. And if you’re anything like me, you also probably  have a tendency to […]

Challenge: Shake things up & do something different

It’s so easy get caught up in being so busy that everything else falls to the sideline. Especially when it comes to what we do in our downtime, when we have some. And it’s so easy to get so caught up in managing the unique challenges that all of us have, that life can end up feeling really […]

You Are Not Alone: On Self Care & Being An Entrepreneur

I used to think self care was hard. Impossible even. That was until I started working for myself, started my career as a freelancers/entrepreneur/small business owner/whatever the name of the day is. Then I started to think that it was another ball game completely. Before we go any further, I want to just make sure […]

Dream Chasing & The Big Pause

Lately I’ve been getting really honest about the not so glamorous side of dream chasing, and how my life is changing now I’m actively seeking to be the woman who chases adventures instead of passively wanting to write about these women. And I want to touch upon something I’ve not really talked a huge amount […]

You Don’t Have To Be a Starving Artist (and here’s why!)

I want to share with you something I’ve been struggling with for a long time. And that’s this idea that you can only do the work you love if you’re willing to be a starving artist. I come from the non profit world and I also have an activist background. So it’ll come as no […]

The Not So Glamorous Side of Dream Chasing

A quick aside before I begin – I just want to say that I’m not meaning to sound ungrateful, or like I have a rod stuck up my ass. When I started That Hummingbird Life, I made a commitment to myself that I would always be honest (maybe sometimes a bit too honest) and this post is […]

11 Fun Ways to Build Your Self Confidence That You Won’t Find In Cosmo

I’ve had quite a few confidence shattering experiences over the last five years. And there’s a notable difference between how I presented myself five years ago than now. Somewhere along the way though , I learned that it’s possible to love myself, that I’m much more introverted than I thought I was and that when […]

Pep Talk: Be The Heroine In Your Own Adventure Story

Here’s a truth for you: I have spent my whole life wanting to write about women who go on adventures. Women who decide to choose themselves and follow their own path, wherever it takes them. Women who buy a one way plane ticket and greet life with a smile and a fuck it attitude. Women […]

Transparency & Privilege: A Call To Action For Online Business Owners And Creatives

There’s something that’s been on my mind for a while now, which I’ve struggled to put into words and felt pretty nervous to write about. And if online businesses and blogging have taught me anything, it’s that when you feel like that, that’s *exactly* when you should be hitting publish and starting the conversation. So […]

The Ultimate Napping Playlist

I absolutely bloody love napping. I really think it’s one of life’s simplest luxuries. And I can say with pride (maybe too much pride), that I have NAILED the art of napping. All it takes is a good playlist, my epic flamingo blanket and sometimes my huge cuddly bear (come on, we’re all adults and I […]

What Becoming Visible Has Taught Me

When I ran the New Year’s Revolution challenge at the start of the year, I set myself a challenge for 2016. And that was to become more visible. And share my many stories. For me that meant putting my whole self out there. Not hiding behind a screen or a mask, but showing up, as […]

The ‘secret’ to getting creative work done and chasing your dreams

When I first started writing, at a very young age, I was obsessed by how other writers achieved success. What writing habits did they adopt? Where did they write? Did they type or hand write? How did they map their novels? What kind of pen were they using? I thought this knowledge was the secret […]

Walking on Custard & My Own Mental Health Journey

Sometimes you watch or read something and it knocks the wind out of you. You wonder where it’s been all your life. And you have a new way of understanding yourself. And you feel less alone. That’s what happened when I first saw Neil Hughes’ TED Talk about walking on custard and anxiety. I’ve struggled […]

Read this if you’ve ever felt like a fraud

I want to talk about something today that we don’t really like to talk about, or admit. We all feel like frauds. Who am I to be doing this? Why should someone pay me attention/money to do this?  What if they find out that I feel like a mess and discover I’m a massive fraud? […]

What would you create if no-one was judging?

Life Lesson 1: Good ideas always come in the shower. Especially when you’re singing loud to ‘Go Your Own Way’ (this version is the best!) Life Lesson 2: Not everyone cares if you go your own way. They might not care about what you do in general. Stay with me on this one. You know […]

Pep Talk: Stop Judging Yourself & Other People

This post was going to be something entirely different, but it turns out sometimes life happens and the story has to pan out before the main point becomes clear. Let me back up. I recently went to a 3 day country music festival and was in my absolute element. Seriously, if anything makes me feel […]

The Epic Guide to Celebrating the Shit Out of Your Small Wins

I talk a lot about celebrating the shit out of your small wins. I mean a lot. Celebrating your small wins helps you to propel you to doing things you thought you wouldn’t be able to, helps you to take a chance on yourself and helps you to find new opportunities. It’s also the difference […]

What happens when you show up but you forget yourself?

You know when you have one of those days where you’re trying to put milk in the kitchen drawer and peanut butter in the fridge? Today is one of those days. This morning, I found myself completely puzzled as to why my tea wasn’t turning brown to only realise that I was pouring hot water […]

Challenge: Admit your dreams to yourself

Dream chasing is a funny thing. The term gets bounded around like there’s nothing easier in the world. Yet we don’t really speak about our dreams. Often not even to ourselves. We may have our vision boards in Pinterest (stay tuned for an upcoming post on using Pinterest to create your Vision Board), we may […]

On Dream-chasing: What would the world look like if we all spoke about our dreams?

How many people know your inner-most dreams? Not the ones that sound good when you’re meeting new people, or the half-beat ones you tell your family. But the ones that you struggle to barely whisper to yourself. The ones you’re too scared to say out loud. The ones that sometimes you’re too afraid to tell […]

Introducing The Couragemakers Podcast

In extremely exciting news, The Couragemakers Podcast launched this week! And it has blown my mind. I started Couragemakers because I wanted to speak to women all over the world, women like you and me – mission driven doers, makers and world shakers, about their dreams, their stories, and get really vulnerable and courageous about what […]

Why You Need To Stop Reinventing Yourself (and why it’s a good thing)

This is the start of a brand new chapter.  This is a new beginning. I’m starting my life over. The new me begins today. I’ve thought all of those things on lots and lots of occasions. And you know what? It’s never worked out for me. It has lasted maybe two days, and I’ve slipped, […]

You’re not Brené Brown, but you’ve still got a story

I just want to start by saying that I love Brené Brown. I’ve watched the TED talks, bought the books, didn’t buy the t-shirt because it was too expensive. And I love the ‘others’ too – you know who I mean. The big name people talking about big ideas and concepts in profound way. I find […]

EPIC POST: What to do when you lose all your enthusiasm

At times, there can be nothing scarier than losing your enthusiasm. Losing your enthusiasm for life, losing enthusiasm for passion projects that you were once so excited about, losing your enthusiasm for your dreams. Believe me, I’ve been there and it feels like a seriously lonely place. Enthusiasm is a massive driver for me, and […]

On Creative Resistance & Doing the Work

Sometimes doing the work is really really hard. You might be a writer, you might be a painter, or a blogger, or you might sell handmade things on Etsy. Or you might have a dream of owning your own business, or be in college doing final exams to graduate in a subject you adore. But for some reason, even though you know exactly the steps you need to to do the work, you just can’t do them. Everything around you becomes SO much more appealing. Checking your email suddenly becomes the most [...]

Can We Stop Arguing Over the Word Authentic?

What is authentic? What is authenticity? How do I know if I’m being authentic? Is that person really authentic? Ahh. So much noise. And I’ve been here before. I remember being a part of my local feminist network as a student, being part of an activist movement as part of my career and being part of […]

Why being visible & creative takes a shitload of bravery

Here’s the thing. Not many people are talking about how scary it is to put yourself out there; how scary it is to make yourself completely visible. And how brave that makes you.   They’re not talking about how vulnerable you feel when you create something that comes straight from your heart, and you know […]

What to do if you feel trapped in your job

In my world, January 29th isn’t any other day; it’s Meg Freedom Day. Today marks the one year anniversary of leaving my job and choosing myself. I wrote this for anyone who’s feeling like I was, to show there is hope, and there is another way.  If you’re getting home and sobbing at the bottom […]

Pep talk: Give yourself permission to try

Waiting for a permission slip to do life, is like waiting for your Hogwarts letter.  It’s something you desperately wish you had, but something that isn’t going to happen. It would be great if someone knocked on your door, told you that your plans are worthwhile and you’re the right person to execute them, but […]

You are enough!

You are enough. Everything that you’ve done, everything that you’ve been through – they make up a story of who you are, sat here, right now reading this. Some of those things will have been great, some of those things will have been downright shit, but they make up the person you are right now at […]

My bizarre morning routine (& the joys of being un-instagrammable)

I wrote a while ago about how it’s okay to not be a morning person and the mystery of having a morning routine. And I still stand by that 100%. But what I have come to learn is that it is helpful to have something in place in the morning that starts you off to a […]

DIY Pick Me Up Box Tutorial

Sometimes making decisions can seem hard. Especially when things feel bleak. Sometimes we just need a pick me up. And that’s what this DIY tutorial is all about. When I was at the lowest point of burnout I was seriously struggling with depression and anxiety and my zest for life had vanished. I was finding it […]

Stop Playing It Safe

I could bet you my future wedding with Macklemore/Ryan Gosling that you don’t want to be Regular Joe From The Status Quo. Why? Because you’re here, you’re reading this blog for a start. I know you want to make a difference. You want to live a wholehearted life. You don’t want to be the same […]

The importance of sharing your story

The world is full of people who are sick of hearing the same stories Full of amazing women like you and me who go to bed feeling completely alone in our struggles because no one is talking about them in a way that feels HUMAN. In a way that feels like us. I want to live […]

Gratitude: the good, the bad and the ugly

I like gratitude. We live in a fast-paced culture where we’re always teetering between future tripping or stressing out about what needs to happen right now. It’s fair to say we’re not very good at being present. We can miss out on so many things, and gratitude can be a really good way of staying in […]

What no one tells you about courage

I’m sat on the sofa, diagonally across from my best friend. We’ve been talking about recording a podcast episode (all about self care) long enough and today’s the day that on a whim we’re decided we’re going to do it. We’ve written a list of what we want to talk about, the laptop is set up […]

5 things to remember when all hope is lost

1. You can’t compare your pain. Yes the world is hurting right now, but that doesn’t invalidate anything going on with your life. Try not to minimalize anything that’s happening with you and get stuck in comparing your pain to what you’re reading and seeing on TV. You are important. 2. A world without kindness is a […]

Dream Chasing: 30 things before 30

It’s a couple of days after my 25th birthday and I’ve been thinking a lot lately about life. About how slow time goes now I’m not having the same mundane day over and over again working at a job I hated. About how I have so many goals but because I only keep them in my head, […]

Guest Post: An Open Letter to Anyone Who’s Ever Had Their Ass Kicked

This is for anyone who knows what it feels like to get your ass kicked and still insists on coming out on the other side more alive, present, whole, and human than you ever dreamed possible. You’re not alone. I get it. To say what you’ve been through “sucks” is a gross understatement and if […]

A couragemaker’s guide to navigating the self help world

I’ve ranted a lot lately. About online gurus, about get rich quick schemes, and other bullshit that creates an alluring trap for couragemakers like you and me but ends up with us feeling worse in the long run. Now, believe it or not, the self-help (or as dream chasing as I prefer to call it) […]

Creative ruts & re-filling your cup

I’ve been thinking a lot about inspiration and creativity lately. Amber’s guest post on creativity and consumption has really had me questioning my own creative process, and how getting sidetracked on social media has a huge impact on my work and what I produce. And Helen’s guest post on women, creativity and creative afternoons has […]

Guest Post: Encouraging and inspiring through creative afternoons

When Meg asked me if I could write a guest post about this, I was over the moon – the opportunity to be on her fantastic website and to share the experience I’ve had hosting craft afternoons, wow! But when I’ve tried to write it, it’s been more difficult than I expected. It’s so hard […]

Guest Post: How Consumption Influences our Creativity

When I started writing for NaNoWriMo last November I dedicated myself to reading a half hour a day. It seemed annoying some days, why not spend that half hour writing instead? I noticed my progress wane on days I’d skipped my “warm-up reading” and felt a nudge that quality consumption was influential in my creativity. […]

The Online Gurus You Don’t Want To Listen To

I want to tackle the controversy of online gurus. You know, the people online who have millions of followers and tell you that you can be happy, if you just choose to be happy – and then wealth will follow! And you just need to do this one little thing, and you’ll basically be Bill Gates! Yep, them. It […]

They’re lying! On get rich/happy quick schemes and bullshit free dream chasing

The truth will set you free, right? It also has a tendency to make you pretty unpopular. But, we don’t care about popularity around here. We care about dream chasing, living for a purpose, and standing up yourself even when it’s doesn’t make you a cool kid. Sometimes, especially when it doesn’t make you a […]

How to throw a one person dance party for yourself (& epic playlist!)

If you’ve never had a one person dance party, you’ve never lived. Ok, perhaps that’s a bit extreme. But seriously, a one person dance party is one of the best ways to make yourself feel great. What is a one person dance party? I hear you ask. Well, if it was an algebraic equation, it would look something […]

50 ways to show yourself you matter

No matter who you are, where you live and what you do, I don’t think anyone can have too many reminders that you matter. That being said, as passionate and compassionate women, I think often we spend so much time boosting other people up, and not enough time making ourselves feel valued. That’s why I […]

13 things you’ll gain from starting that big project

Today I’m sharing with you the big fuck off reminders life gives you when you’re undertaking any big project. Whether you’re writing a book, thinking of starting your own business, planning a wedding, or even thinking that you’d like a big project; there are so many great takeaways. Now, if you’re anything like me, you like […]

5 TED Talks to Increase Your Self Love

Anyone who’s been around me for more than twenty minutes knows that I’m a fan of surrounding myself with inspiring people. And then sharing those people with everyone around me! I live for things that give me the chance to see something from a different perspective, bring more joy to my life and the world, and […]

Why stepping outside of your comfort zone is like being in a dystopian novel

The other day I saw a card that read ‘stepping out of your comfort zone has never killed anyone’. At the time, I chuckled and kept on walking. I was on the way home from work and when you’re commuting in London, you don’t really stop, stare and think. (People will stand on you.) Stepping outside of your comfort […]

A Day in the Mind of a Self Care Warrior

It won’t come as a surprise to hear that I’ve spent a great proportion of life struggling with guilt, feeling selfish and going full pelt, with no thought to the effect on myself. A lot of us do. I’ve talked a lot on my blog about how things have changed for me in the past couple […]

An Open Letter to Fellow Couragemakers Who Have Lost All Hope In The World

Dear fellow Couragemakers, It’s pretty hard not to think that we’re all fucked. As the empathisers, the carers, the world shakers, we know how it works. We know how much of the world is held up by misogyny, racism, class war, ablism and homophobia. While we strive to make the world a brighter place, we’re […]

How I quit feeling guilty about relaxing

About five years ago, I read a quote that I haven’t been able to get out of my head since. I can’t remember who said it, it was possibly Marx but haven’t been able to find it since. Basically it went something to the tune of this: If you want to change the world, don’t waste […]

Seeing life as an adventure – boring bits included

Sometimes it seems like our lives are made up of a seemingly random occurrence of events. We mark some of our experiences down as mundane and unremarkable, and others become stories of adventure and excitement for the people around us. Let’s take some adventures that I’ve had in my life so far. I’ve ridden a donkey in […]

My life in 14 songs

There are so many ways that we can tell our stories and share our stories. I’ve always had a big interest in storytelling, and the way we capture our lives. So, with that in mind, I thought I’d share you my life in 14 songs: The Childhood Years 1. Yesterday Once More – Carpenters Let’s […]

6 fun and creative ways to practice mindfulness

I’ve always loved the ideas of sitting down with a candle, some relaxing music and meditating. Mindfulness appeals to the side of me that knows slowing down always does me good. But the idea has always been better than the reality. For a start, I struggle to make the time for it (I always say I’m going […]

Confessions of an emotionally wounded activist

I’ve hesitated a lot before writing this post. Partly because it’s been in my head for such a long time I’m worried about getting it out right. Partly because it’s so hard to talk about. Mostly though, because I’ve been scared to face up and own the truth. I’m going to start right back to […]

Why you need to stop googling productivity hacks

I like a to-do list like anyone else, and to be honest, I’m pretty overwhelmed at the sheer amount of apps designed to increase productivity. Yeah, the whole conversation does appeal to my (slightly anal) organised (chaos) side. Especially when you add in funky looking day planners and downloadable pdfs. But please, can we just stop […]

You don’t have to be a morning person

I can say with a certain element of pride, that I’m never going to be someone that gets up at 6am to meditate and really embrace the new day. Now, I’ve seen my fair share of instagram pictures of nutritious smoothies, and read about the rituals of the zen and famous. You know the ones I’m talking about […]

5 things to remember when you’re exhausted

I’m gonna be honest with you – I am exhausted. Things have been pretty hard lately. I’ve moved house, started a new job and haven’t had much time for rest. Emotionally, and physically, I’m exhausted.  So, I wanted to share with you some things to keep at the front of your mind when you’re overcome with […]

10 ways to make doing things that suck, suck less

We’ve all got things we don’t like doing – things that suck. For me, it’s bad attitude, washing up, getting up early, changing the bins, and being late. Generally speaking, we get over it. Then there’s some things that are just really shit. They might be a one-off, or don’t happen that regularly like having a meeting […]

The links between grief and change

I’m sat in my dining room, just under four weeks before I move to London, looking out of the patio doors and I feel an overwhelming amount of sadness. This isn’t new. Since making the decision to leave my house and everything I know and chasing my dream of living a life on my terms and travelling, […]

What happens when yo make a change from a place of hope, not fear

I talked a while ago on here about being guilty of future tripping. Getting so lost in what we want to do in the future, and not focusing on the present. I also mentioned that I had big changes which I would share when I was ready. And I’m ready. Turning my life upside down In […]

3 reasons why we don’t make time for the things we love (and what you can do about it)

It may come to you as no surprise if you’ve been around my blog for a while, that I love taking walks, and I love doing creative things like art journalling. They both make me feel really good, and they’re my go-to things if I need to clear my head, de-stress and take some time out for me. […]

Self care is hard

There’s this myth out there that self care is eeeaasy. It’s like this ridiculously simple thing that needs no attention. Simple as running a bath right? It’s not easy If this whole self care thing was easy, we wouldn’t end up burnt out, exhausted and coming down with colds after stressful weeks. If self care was easy, […]

The importance of being compassionate and mindful on social media

I love Facebook and Twitter as much as the next person. Yes they’ve changed the way we live drastically and while I know my Mum and probably your Mum want to go back to a day when if you wanted to contact someone you had to go to a phone box, I don’t. But there […]

The ultimate guide to future tripping

Are you guilty of future tripping? I absolutely am! What is future tripping At its most basic, future tripping is when we occupy our time thinking in terms of the future. While there are a number of reasons why we all do it, it’s basically when we’re stuck in what we want our future to […]

How I fell in love with commuting

For the better part of the last ten years, I have been getting coaches all over the country.  9 hour coach journeys to meet one of my closest friends, about a thousand 3 hour journeys to see Mr. Meg when we had a long distance relationship and a 2 hour daily commute when I was working […]

Calling bullshit on the glorification of busy-ness

*Disclaimer: This is a satirical piece, not intended to offend but to challenge and call bullshit on both the unrealistic expectations women are expected to meet and the expectation that we must put everyone before ourselves.* I woke up this morning at 4am, and after making myself a carrot and apple smoothie, I went out for a 10k […]

How spoon theory will change your life

When a lot of people think of the things they want in life, money and success might be up the top there. That might have even been what we had up there in the past. But when you’re in the deepest trudge of burnout, energy goes straight up to number one. Not having the energy […]

Why believing you matter will change your life (and the world)

The below image is the front page of my Radical Self Love Bible (if you haven’t already checked it out, I can’t recommend the Radical Self Love Bible School by Gala Darling enough!) And I’m really happy with my front page, because it reminds me that no matter how shit a situation it is, if you can not […]

Learning to choose yourself over unrealistic expectations.

A lot of us set ourselves high expectations. Sometimes they’re not realistic, and we spend time beating ourselves up, full of self sabotage. That’s why I want to share my story of ‘failure’ with you today. A month ago, I wrote here on my blog about this year being the year to complete NaNoWriMo (50,000 […]

9 Life lessons from my house bunnies

Two years ago this month, I bought my two house bunnies, Harry and Gilby. Aside from providing eons of entertainment and cuteness, I think between them, they’ve modelled quite a few lessons about how to live a good – and very furry-  life, which I’m going to share below like a proud mother: 1. Everyone […]

Repeat after me: I am not superwoman

Maybe people have called you Superwoman. It feels good, right? We’re in control, we’re pleasing everyone, we’re doing all that we can, we may even become canonised (a step too far?). Right? Ummm. Being Superwoman may be a massive compliment regarding how we treat others. But it’s not such great news for how we treat […]

Celebrating the shit out of your small wins

When it comes to standing up for yourself, changing habits, achieving goals, and basically anything in life, there’s one thing that’s going to help. And that’s starting to celebrate the shit out of your small wins.   So, what is a small win? It’s doing something small that will help you achieve a larger goal, or […]

7 ways to become assertive and stop people pleasing

I used to be scared of being assertive. I thought I would alienate people, turn people away, and I thought people would just think I was a massive bitch. I’ve spent a lot of my life being a people pleaser. While I dress in bright and bold colours (that never match), have colourful language and […]

3 ways to say no and stop people taking you for granted

“It would be easier, and quicker if I just did it.” “It will cause an argument if I said no, and I hate conflict” Sound familiar? I thought so. So let’s take a couple of scenarios: 1. You’re at work and your colleague is taking a loooong time to do a basic task. Sometimes you […]

7 ways to manage your self-sacrificing guilt issues

If you’ve ever heard yourself saying, or thinking… ‘But I’d feel bad if I didn’t’ ‘I feel so guilty if I take time for myself’ ‘Looking after myself is so selfish when there are other people less fortunate than me!’ Then, this one’s definitely for you! The problem with guilt is that it’s such a […]

Why self care is a form of protest

Somewhere between the stone age and today, the world has turned bat-shit crazy. The other day, I read something and had a reaction I don’t often have. ‘Protest is a form of self care.’ I just stopped. You know those serendipitous moments where two seemingly different things that have played a major part in your […]

This one word could change everything

As passionate women who are committed to making an impact in the world, we tend to say yes a shitload more than we say no. Imagine: 1. A colleague asks you if you could do a bit of extra work as they won’t get round to it and they’ve got a really important deadline to meet. […]

Pep talk – what do you keep meaning to do?

Last night I did something that I’ve been meaning to do since this time last year. It’s not profound, it’s not impressive, it’s something that’s really simple. And that was get in bed at 7pm with a good book and spend the whole evening in bed reading. That might not be your cup of tea, […]

Writing, success and unrealistic expectations

It’s often been said that every person has a novel in them, but they never write it. This month, I’m on a one woman quest to come to peace with my fear, create healthy expectations, and do something I’ve talked about doing my whole life. Since I was about six, it has always been my […]

What a noisy hamster can teach you about escaping

I’ve been looking after my sister’s hamster for the last week. While being a zippy little thing and quite cute, she also has a problem. All she’s been focused on is escaping. And I mean that’s all she wants to do. I’ve had hamsters before, and yeah, they’ve all chewed the bars and driven me […]

Shit storms & silver linings

This post is part of Mary Sabo’s wonderful Misfortune Into Opportunity blog tour. Be sure to check out her blog tour for great stories made out of hope and heart. I like to find silver linings. I’d say I’m a pretty optimistic person and my smile tends to eat up (more than) half my face. When things go […]

You are worth more than your to-do list!

Got a to-do list on the go? Got it with you right now? Good. Now rip it up. I’m being serious. Rip it up, just today. You are more than your to-do list. You are more than the sum of everything you have to do today. If, and only if, the world will end if […]

Decision making 101 – heart vs logic

When was the last time you made a decision for yourself without relying on others? For some, that might not even be an issue, for others, it’s a bit of a wake up call. Giving decisions away I have always relied on others to help me make decisions. I find big decisions scary, and have […]

How to deal with dreamshitters (or when to tell people to fuck off)

Some people are just dreamshitters, soul crushers and downright mean.* I think you know who I’m talking about. That friend who patronises your ideas and points out all the flaws in any plan before you’ve even finished your sentence. The teachers, the older relatives who want you to just be realistic. Or the people who […]

Just because you can, doesn’t mean you should

I recently had the (un)pleasant experience of travelling to Glasgow via a Megabus Sleeper Service, and, in my pursuit to find a silver lining in the situation (I had seven and a half hours), I learned a valuable life lesson. There are things that are possible in life. There are things that are pleasant in […]

30 things you can do to relax in under 5 minutes

I haven’t got time to relax What’s spare time?  Slow down? Are you serious? I have so much to do. Everything will fall apart if I take my eyes off the ball. This sound familar? I’ve certainly found myself saying a lot in the past, and these kind of phrases are something I hear often […]

Self care is not bullshit

Let’s make this short and sweet. Most of us want to live. Most of us want to achieve our dreams. We all have a limited amount of energy and time. If we hit the ground running and never stop to think of ourselves, we will fall to the ground. Therefore looking after yourself is not […]

What cutting my hair taught me about motivation

I had a dream. No, not the Martin Luther King type. The type where something happens in your dream and you wake up thinking, hey, I’m gonna try that right now. Hold your horses, it’s not that exciting (and it’s definitely not raunchy), but it’s worth a blog post at least. I don’t know where […]

7 things to do on a shitty day

We all have bad days. For some of us they’re one offs. For others, they show up pretty regularly. It’s not about banishing the bad days, because like good old Dolly tells us, ‘if you want the rainbow, you gotta put up with the rain’. But it’s about being able to deal with crappy days […]

The power of unexpected nice things

As someone who has been used to rushing about, being perpetually busy and placing high expectations on others, I’ve often found it hard to keep patience and keep frustration at bay with things being cancelled, delayed or people being late. I would get annoyed, my blood pressure would rise and I would quietly seethe. But, […]

How discovering multipotentiality felt like coming home

*This post is part of Puttyfest – celebrating the 4 year anniversary of Puttylike* It’s been a year since I learned of the term multipotentiality. Up until that point, I worried why I couldn’t figure out what I wanted to do with my life. I didn’t realise that having multiple interests and being good at a […]

What trimming my bush taught me about my mind garden

I would love a nice garden. A lovely garden with flowers of every colour, a nice patio set and some home-made lemonade, outside where I do my best work. The reality is that right now, my life is super busy, and even mowing the lawn (it’s not even a big lawn) only happens when we realise […]

A simple approach to innovation

Kayaking doesn’t seem like the hardest thing in the world. A bit of balance, a bit of arm muscle and some good size waves. It doesn’t seem like a tasking activity. That’s until you met me. Let me paint you an accurate picture. It’s sunny, I’ve hit the beach with my family and I’m in […]

5 rules to start breaking, right now

We’re our own worst enemies. We push ourselves harder and harder. We expect to get three times the work done in a third of the time. Then we berate ourselves when our immune systems start failing us and when we’re not achieving what we wanted to. Why? Because we think we’re super-human? Probably. The more […]

Are you living with your eyes shut?

So many of us are walking through lives with our eyes shut. Tasks become automated, we can’t remember eating our breakfast though we can vaguely remember what we ate and everything starts to become a to-do list item. Check. Cross Off. Leave for another day. We end the day thinking about tomorrow. We start the […]

A few words about changing the world

Let me take you back four years. I’m a student. I’ve discovered my loud and powerful voice. I’ve discovered positive outlets for all of the injustices I had spent my teenage years trying to change. I’m living, breathing, eating and sleeping my passions (largely tackling violence against women and poverty. Bedtime reading anyone?). I’ve covered […]

Is trying to relax stressing you out?

Picture the scene. It’s been a hard few weeks. You just want to relax. Everyone has seemed to want something from you, the bags under your eyes look bigger than your credit card bills, you yawn more than you talk and you can’t remember then last time your brain just shut up. So you’ve taken […]

Believe in yourself, not just other people

I’ve written before on my blog about how inspired I get by big adventures and taking risks. You know what it’s like. You’re watching your favourite team on a Saturday night (or like me, watching Nashville) and you’re rooting for them to score (or get back together). You’re watching your friend take make a big […]

Are we ‘catfishing’ ourselves?

I’ve recently got really into the TV programme Catfish. I don’t know whether it’s just a human interest thing, or because me and my partner met online ten years ago, but I’m a bit addicted. There’s just something about watching people at their most vulnerable, put themselves out there and pick themselves back up and start […]

Radical Honesty and the Shower Song Strategy

I’m a big fan of radical honesty and sincerity. I’m a fan of putting my truths out there for the world to see and not holding back. I don’t want to come across as some kind of douche expert that pretends they have their shit together and lectures other people form their pedestal of great […]

How to create your own escape plan

I should first start with this. I love plans. I am a complete nerd. I love planning. I hardly ever stick to them, but there’s something about the sense of control, the reduction of anxiety, and the idea of dreams becoming reality that I find really appealing. Not quite Ryan Gosling appealing though. I’ll leave […]

Fooling yourself into taking time out

I have grown up with a strong sense of selflessness and caring for others. As I’ve written about before, in the past, I’ve really struggled with doing my best, putting healthy boundaries around my work and my personal life, and taking on too much. Sometimes this has manifested in the form of illness (both physical and […]

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